It is not good to be insecure as you hear so many unsure people in the dating world, and you see how many insecure people are at work, failing to live to their potential. There are plenty of remarks about those types of people, and you also may have felt insecure at a time or so for whatever reason. And being insecure makes you tense and unconfidence, and fearful. Insecurities can make you afraid, and you cannot imagine moving forward from them. And if you are feeling insecure about something, you wish there was a magic wand that would help you wash it away, but it does not work that way. 

Those who struggle with insecurity need guidance and how to stop being insecure so they can live a meaningful life without allowing fear to get in the way. So let’s talk about how you can move past insecurity. 

What Is Insecurity?

The gist is when someone is insecure, they don’t feel they are good enough and don’t measure up. It causes you to doubt yourself and may even believe you don’t deserve love. Most people are insecure about one aspect of their lives. For example, someone can be confident about their smarts but may think they are not good enough in social situations, which is why they isolate themselves. 

As you can, insecurity can hold you back from living the life you genuinely love and manifesting the things you want to attract. That is why it is essential to work through it so you can stop doubting yourself and believe in yourself again. You also have to understand the insecurity, as it likely came from an incident that made you feel you were not good enough when you were a child. 

Perhaps your parents were not nurturing and overly critical, maybe you had some unkind teachers that put you down, and perhaps you dealt with other kids bullying you. But unfortunately, it develops during the formative years of your childhood, and unfortunately, it can cause you to be an insecure adult. 

What Are The Signs of Insecurity To Watch?

There are many signs of insecurity to look for in someone, and you can see if someone is insecure, their body language shows it. For example, insecure people tend to nod a lot, and they do this to show that they desperately want others to like them. So they will nod at something, making others think they agree with them even if they don’t. 

Another sign of insecurity is talking too much, as those who struggle with it don’t like silence. So they will talk about anything they think of, whether it is current events, the weather, or even themselves. That will give off the false belief that they are arrogant when in fact, the opposite is the truth. 

Additionally, insecure people need reassurance constantly. That means they will always text their friends and romantic partners, ensuring they are okay. And it can be suffocating to the other in relationships. In extreme situations, they will keep checking on their partners too much to the point that they fear they are not being faithful, which will always ruin relationships because of the lack of trust. 

Insecure people are always defensive, too, as they are very stubborn and cannot handle constructive criticism, and as a result, they will respond aggressively. A lack of eye contact is another sign of insecurity, but at the same time, you don’t want to think of that sign alone as a result of insecurity, as many people on the autism spectrum struggle to make eye contact. Do you resonate with any of these signs? If so, the good news is there are ways to move away from insecurity so you can begin to live a great life. Let’s go over that now. 

You Can Begin To Build Your Self-Esteem Away From Insecurity

You know the signs of insecurity to look for in yourself, and awareness is the key to everything, which is why you can now tackle it and begin to build your self-esteem. The first thing to do to conquer insecurity is to challenge negative thoughts. It is one of the most challenging things to do, but once you do, you can tackle other tactics easier. 

If you struggle with insecurity, you have that loud inner critic, which may have the voice of someone who constantly criticized you as a child. Or, you may develop your own voice of the inner critic. The voice will tell you that you are not good enough, pretty enough, or intelligent enough, and no one likes you. Realize that this voice is not telling you the truth about yourself. Give it a name. Name the voice a name that you don’t like. For example, if you don’t like the name Helga, name the voice Helga. 

The next time Helga tells you that you are not good enough, you will want to catch it in its tracks and tell it something opposing. You can say something like, “Oh shut up, Helga, you are amazing, and you can achieve whatever you put your mind to.” Be prepared at first; it may feel like a lie since you have listened to that voice for a long time. But the more you do it, the easier you will be able to stop those negative thoughts about yourself from happening. 

Once you feel more confident, you will want to start writing down the things you like about yourself. Then, write a gratitude list daily so you can keep shifting to a positive mindset. When you get compliments, write them down. At the end of each month, look at the compliments you receive, which will also help you realize that you are amazing! Begin to treat your body better, too, by exercising and eating a nutritious diet. It is also essential to do things for yourself that you enjoy. You need ME time in responsibilities that you may have. The more you do this, the more the insecurity will fall away. You will be at a point where you can manifest anything you choose in life!