Think back to two married teachers at your elementary or high school. And why not consider celebrities such as Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, Channing Tatum with Jenna Dewan, or Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck. What do all of them have in common? These individuals developed a relationship while working and got married, which was a bonus. 

Sure, you are not making a movie or a celebrity, but neither are those teachers who met on the job and got married. That means if you want to develop a romantic relationship with someone at work, then you can do it. It may be challenging because many employment rules include a no-dating policy. However, that does not mean you cannot form a relationship without compromising your job. However, you will have to be discreet about developing and maintaining a relationship with someone you work with so you do not jeopardize your career. 

You Can Date Someone You Work With If You Are Careful

Yes, you can date someone at work, but you do need to consider how to do it carefully. For example, it is not a good idea to date your boss or else that will lower your credibility and their credibility. Also, you will want to ensure that the company you work for does not require you to disclose your dating status to management or human resources. 

Not all companies have that requirement, but you will want to check if yours does before doing anything. If it does, you will want to keep your relationship secret, or if that worries you, you may want to look for other work in case you feel it could be too risky. That is if it is essential to you that you develop a romantic relationship with someone on the job. In other words, check your employer’s policy before doing anything. 

However, hopefully, you are working for a company with no such strict no-dating policy so that you can develop a relationship with someone on the job. But at the same time, you still want to be careful with how you approach your coworker that you want to date. 

Don’t Approach Them In The Office

If you want to ask your coworker to date you, you will not want to do it in the office. So stay away from the cubicles in that case. Instead, you will want to approach your coworker after hours or during your lunch break. The only thing you can do in the office is telling the one you want to date that you need to talk to them and that you will call them during their lunch break or after hours. Keep it vague when you tell them that in the office. That way, no one will suspect anything. 

It may be awkward for you if the one you want to date is not interested, even if they acted as if they were. You need to consider there is a chance they may not at all be interested, which could cause your future interactions at work to be awkward. That is why you want to be sure that there is a high chance that the coworker would be interested in you before approaching them. If you are unsure, it will be challenging, but it would be best to keep it as a crush and not allow it to turn into anything more. 

Don’t Wait Until Large Work Celebrations To Tell Them

If the office Christmas party is approaching, don’t think about asking your coworker on a date there. Instead, you may want to do it before the celebration. It is not a good idea to make this known during any work celebration because your coworker may see it as a one-time occasion. If you feel happy and free whether or not you have had any drinks and you ask your coworker out, that may appear to your coworker that you are not serious about dating them. Everyone tends to say things when they are emotional, whether happy or upset. That is why you want to be in a neutral mood and atmosphere when you talk to your coworker about this. 

Keep It Casual And Stay Cool

The best thing you can do is when you do ask your coworker out, do not tell them how you have such strong feelings for them. Don’t pour your heart out. Instead, call them after hours or tell them privately during your lunch break that you want to have a cup of coffee with them. 

Even if they do accept, keep it cool during the date. In other words, don’t express your feelings for them. You do not want to do that on a first date regardless of whether or not it is from work. Therefore, stay calm and cool and keep it simple. You must also be mindful that even if they accept your dating invitation, it may not go anywhere. So be open to that possibility so nothing becomes awkward at work in the future. 

Is It Recommended To Date Someone On The Job?

The truth is just that some celebrities were able to do it, and perhaps you had teachers who could do it. Also, plenty of other coworkers developed romantic relationships with one another. However, that does not mean you should purposely look for a date at your job. And do not do that if you do not have feelings for anyone. That is why there are online matchmakers and other dating apps. 

Only approach your coworker carefully about it if you do have feelings for them. That is because you cannot help who you fall in love with, and even though dating at work is not recommended, it can be done if you are careful about it. If this is you, ensure that you stay cautious as you do it, and follow the steps listed in the article above, to have a good chance of developing a potentially meaningful relationship. Your workplace is never an ideal place to find romance, but once again, you cannot help who you like more than a friend.